Reading women’s sexual fantasies together (My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday is an excellent choice).
Attending a swinger’s event (to find one near you, go to the Internet and type in ‘swingers’). To gain acceptance to most swinger’s events you will need to register. Registering consists of sending in a photo of yourself & money. To actually attend an event, all you have to do is to show up. Go there, socialize, meet people and if you feel up to it, participate. Couples tend to be pretty good about telling you what they are into and asking permission. If at any point, you feel uncomfortable, you can always say no. Not to mention, you can just tell people you are into voyeurism. If nothing else, it could give the two of you a lot to talk about.
Attending an S&M workshop together. Your local S&M store often will give free workshops on how to use sex toys, care for leather products, or assume different sexual roles. These workshops can be a lot of fun to attend. I can guarantee that you will learn something new! This is something that is especially fun to do with your partner. Not only will the two of you be exposed to something new together, but also then you will have a lot to talk about – and who knows where a conversation like this could lead you.
Making your own ‘dirty’ movie together. Then watching it & immediately erasing it. Most couples die of laughter when they watch themselves having sex. Lets face it, most people look rather silly having sex. The good news is, your partner already knows what you look like – and enjoy it with you. So, the only embarrassment you may feel is about you seeing you! However, on a few rare occasions, you might even find yourself looking pretty good. I highly recommend watching yourself. You learn a lot. Besides, again, I guarantee, you won’t feel bored while making it or watching it.
How about trying a sex toy? You could go through a sex toy catalog together, or separately. Try checking out http://www.adulttoysland.com/ One of the products that they sell which is a lot of fun is the ‘Flex-a-Pleaser’. The Flex-a-please consists of 3 unique parts: 3.5 long x 1-inch diameter head that contains an ultra powerful silent vibrator. Plastic covered, flexible spring steel extension wand. Variable speed power pack handle. The flex-a-pleaser is similar to a vibrator, but better. It allows you to reach better angles. It’s highly recommended for anal manipulation during intercourse. You can also use it directly on the clitoris during intercourse. This feature is nice – particularly for women who can’t ‘cum’ from intercourse alone.

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